CLUTTERMEISTER
  • home
  • virtual services
  • clutteraware
  • speaker
  • clues
    • blog
    • audiovisual
    • publications
    • in the media
    • testimonials
  • contact

Choosing the right tasks

7/6/2021

 
Picture
I often come across clients who have reached out because they feel overwhelmed by the prospect of making their homes work for them. Sometimes we have to delve deep into the reasons behind that feeling, and often the feeling has nothing to do with the stuff in that household. Maybe the partner is creating more havoc than they should, or the kids are too much to deal with, or someone interferes with their sense of calm in some manner.

But in other cases, the matter is completely unrelated to the physical items in a home, and is all about the tasks my client has chosen to take upon themselves…
I’m talking about obligations that we put upon ourselves here: not only is it up to each and everyone of us to make choices about what we take on, but also about the order, frequency and intensity that we choose to deal with those tasks. Let’s dissect a little:

Choice

Of course, there are tasks we are obliged to do… doing the dishes or laundry, cooking, shopping for food, going to work, taking the kids to school, etc. – those are tasks we would be hard put to neglect. However, what about taking care of the choir finances, or tending to the communal garden? What about pre-cooking food for your child at university? Or helping your neighbour with their housework (which you have been doing for 10+ years)?

Learn to distinguish mandatory tasks from potential activities. Some tasks you choose to continue, even though some activities are adding too much to your sack of things to do and you end up being stressed all the time. They may feel like the correct decision from a social point of view, but they end up being too much for you. Maybe it’s time to be more selective about what you take on and why.

Order

Sometimes, overwhelm can be the result of tackling your tasks in the wrong order: doing everything you like doing to start with may not be the best strategy as you’ll end up with the hateful tasks at the end of the day. That’s just procrastination in some cases, with the effect that unpleasant tasks never get done.

Let me tell you a secret: the longer you wait to finish an unpleasant task, the longer it will sit there and annoy you. So why do it earlier and get it off your back?

Frequency

Some tasks are overwhelming because they are repetitive and/or never seem to be done, like the dishes, cleaning your house or balancing your books. There’s always more. However, what is totally in your hands is the frequency in which you do such things. Is there any reason to balance your books as often as you do? Can you rinse your dishes after use and then do them the next day with the next lot? Could you do the school run less often?

Intensity

Some of us are perfectionists. Yes, it’s true. That may lead to situations where whatever task you choose to do next takes much longer than it needs to, because it has to be finished to a standard far beyond the necessary. A bit of dust on the shelves cannot hurt you. Scrubbing that pan for five more minutes will not make a difference in the long run. Organising everything by colour and keeping it that way is a losing battle to start with.

Try to find ways to do tasks in a way that finishes them quickly, to a reasonable level of good, but without the constant need to achieve perfection. There are times where perfection is the goal, but those are rarer than you might think – in most cases, good enough is what you need to strive for.
If you have enjoyed reading this, you may find these other articles interesting:
  • Delegating tasks
  • Chronic overwhelm and lack of focus
  • Self-indulgence

Comments are closed.

    Ask the ClutterMeister

    Picture
    Hi, my name is Tilo Flache. My mission: help clients declutter mind and space.
    This blog contains pointers for your journey towards a happier living experience.

    If you want to share a post, please add a link to the original post. Thanks.

    Archives

    May 2025
    April 2025
    March 2025
    February 2025
    January 2025
    November 2023
    July 2022
    November 2021
    October 2021
    September 2021
    August 2021
    July 2021
    June 2021
    May 2021
    April 2021
    March 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020
    November 2020
    October 2020
    September 2020
    August 2020
    July 2020
    June 2020
    May 2020
    March 2020
    February 2020
    January 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    October 2019
    September 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    May 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016

    RSS Feed

Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
All information refers to Tilo Flache t/a ClutterMeister.  © 2015-2024
  • home
  • virtual services
  • clutteraware
  • speaker
  • clues
    • blog
    • audiovisual
    • publications
    • in the media
    • testimonials
  • contact